Life Lessons From Horses - Listening Carefully and Asking Quietly

One day I was teaching Sharkie, a Percheronwarm breath and share some quiet time together.
Appaloosa cross mare, how to drop her head onRemembering the problem with head dropping, I figured
command. If a horse mistrusts you, she will keep herI would make a game with it. I applied the lightest
head high. As you develop more trust, she will relaxpossible pressure between her ears. When she
and drop her head more readily. While I was trying tomoved down, I rubbed her and tried again.
teach Sharkie this task, she taught me an importantSharkie was suddenly into the game. Her demeanor
lesson about asking quietly and politely.changed from "Yeah? Whaddaya want?" to "This is
My goal that day was actually to prepare Sharkie forinteresting. What are we doing?" She changed
the farrier. She needs to be able to lift her feet andbecause I changed from telling her to asking her. And
stand quietly while the farrier trims her. In betweenwe played together to see how lightly I could ask and
working with her feet, I would do other tasks so thatget a response. Soon, Sharkie was dropping her head
the whole session is not just about her feet. Theto the ground and keeping it there with just a slight
variety help keeps her mind busy and not focusing onsuggestion from me.
one task.I am sure that there are a lot of leaders who don't
I was asking Sharkie to drop her head by applyingrealize that they are shouting at their followers. I was
pressure with my thumb and forefinger on top of herasking Sharkie with what I thought were polite
head between her ears. When she dropped her head,requests, but she was getting defensive. By bouncing
even a little bit, I would release the pressure to tell herher head back up, she was telling me as much, but I
she made the right move. I noticed that she wouldwasn't listening. It may be harder to detect that
drop her head on command, but would bring it rightreaction in people, but a good leader will know when to
back up. I acknowledged that, but didn't pay a lot ofslow down and communicate more quietly. His
attention because the feet were my main point offollowers will return the favor by paying more attention,
interest for the day.responding more quickly, and appreciating the better
Late that evening, I wandered out to the paddock justleadership.
to be with the horses. I often do that just to feel their